We are so quick to blame others for how we feel. “She made me mad!” or “She hurt my feelings, so that’s why I hit her.” It’s true that people can be mean, unfair, and hurtful. But can someone actually make you angry, and justify your reasons for acting a certain way or are we feeling anger in response to how someone behaved? There is a difference between someone making you feel a certain way and your response to something they did. No one can make us do anything or feel any way! When we put the blame on others for our own feelings and actions, we are giving the power to others for the state of our emotional well being. Your triggers, or “buttons” are inside of you, so no one can push your buttons without your permission. Our responses to others are in our control, we choose how to react, respond, and feel in a situation. If someone is making us mad or react a certain way then we haven’t learned how to control our own buttons and effectively cope with what triggers us.
We can help you learn how to take control of your own feelings and reactions. We will teach you tools and skills for getting that power back!
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