Relationship Counseling at Affordable Counseling Center in Tampa FL, and Brandon FL.
- Sam DiFranco
- Sep 1, 2023
- 3 min read
For so many of us, falling in love with someone and being their spouse is one of the happiest memories of our lives. The feeling of being loved is intoxicating in the best way, and we’re amazed how happy someone else can make us. However, many of us wake up years later thinking, “Maybe we should call a relationship counselor…” so, how did we get here?
By now, you’re probably frustrated, and exhausted
Sometimes those strong feelings of love in the beginning can fade and it gets really hard to be together. Somewhere over the years, something changed between you two, and it feels like your spouse isn’t the same person who you fell in love with. Every couple goes through challenges in their relationship, but maybe you and your spouse struggle more than most. Then, you begin to grow apart emotionally and resentment creeps in where love used to be, and you think about relationship counseling in Tampa FL, and Brandon FL, for the first time. You wonder, do all couples fight this much? Every couple fights, right?
Then, you can try to make up with your spouse, but you end up fighting even more. So you’re torn between trying fix your relationship again or pretending things are okay to avoid another fight. Maybe you’ve laid awake at night, with your spouse turned away from you in bed, and you don’t know how to get them back. You want to tell them what you’re feeling, but you worry that you’re going to say the wrong thing and make it worse. If you feel this way, it might be easy to blame yourself or your spouse for how your life is right now. But, I promise you that it isn’t all your fault, and it isn’t all their fault, both of you can have a part in the healing process; I encourage you to check out this blog post for more on that topic.
Your relationship has probably been hard for years
In Affordable Counseling time providing relationship counseling, I’ve seen couples struggle through three distinct stages in their relationship. First, you and your spouse fight a lot more than you used to. You fight over big things, you bicker over little things, and the little differences that seemed so charming early on become annoying and draining. You try to work things out, but somehow your relationship just gets worse.
Then, you move to stage two, where you don’t talk about the things that really bother you so you can avoid fighting. Things seem better because you two aren’t fighting as much, but you distance each other as a result. And after you avoid each other long enough, you enter stage three. In stage three, you live separate lives, and then your former spouse becomes a roommate. Some couples stay together in this stage, and some divorce because they’re so emotionally distant it seems fruitless to be “together” anymore.
When you feel tense and awkward around each other, every day can feel painful and spending time together can be so challenging. You might find yourself growing apart, and you can wonder, is this the same person I married? Am I same the person they married? We can hardly tell sometimes. Also, it is unfortunately common that when couples are distant, one spouse can fall into infidelity or an affair. When there’s baggage like this you’re dealing with, it can be hard to see any way back to a healthy relationship. But, I promise you, Affordable Counseling Center in Tampa FL, and Brandon FL, has helped couples recover from emotional abuse, abandonment, and even infidelity, so I can promise you that there is a way back to loving each other.
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