As a licensed clinician in the field with over 12 years specializing in couples counseling, I am here to give you a firm and resounding answer: YES.
We may think that our relationship in Tampa Fl, and Brandon Fl, is ours and ours alone to deal with, and that the problems within the relationship need to be solved on our own. We may think if we just work a little harder, or if I can just get my partner to understand, then he/she will realize and make the changes necessary to fix this relationship. Does that sound familiar? We can get stuck in a negative cycle, and our pattern of thinking is a part of it. We become entangled in the same issues and arguments because we think our partner has to change. However, in their mind they think that we are the one who needs to change. Alternately, sometimes one person may entirely blame themselves.
What’s happening in this situation? Both people play a role in each conflict and misunderstanding in a relationship. In many instances, the problem may actually stem from something you’re bringing into the relationship from the past. It could be from your childhood, from a past relationship in Tampa Fl, and Brandon Fl, or even a trauma you experienced that you don’t realize is still affecting you. This serves as an unconscious trigger in certain recurring arguments, causing the two of you to experience the same interaction in very different ways (and neither of you realizes it). If you have common arguments where you feel like your partner is overreacting to a situation, it may be because they’re unconsciously being triggered from something in their past. This current challenge may have upset them on its own, but these past experiences could be raising the degree by which they’re reacting. A couple’s counselor at Affordable Counseling Center in Tampa Fl, and Brandon Fl, is trained in spotting these disconnects.