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  • Sam DiFranco

When To Pursue Couples Therapy At Affordable Counseling Center in Tampa Fl, and Brandon Fl.

In the United States, 40-50% of all first marriages end in divorce.  And second marriages have an even higher percentage of divorce ranging between 60-65%. Furthermore, some couples choose to stay married in an unhappy partnership due to financial reasons, children, or the shame of failure, among other reasons. 

“Individuals at the crossroads of divorce can sometimes feel like they have to choose between two competing options. ‘Do I divorce so that I can find happiness again, or do I stay together for the family’s sake and remain unhappy?’ We think that is a false choice. There is good evidence to suggest that with the proper help and willingness on the part of both spouses, many marriages that might otherwise end in divorce can become healthy, vibrant, and supportive.” 

There are telltale signs that signal you and your romantic partner could benefit from couples counseling in Tampa Fl, and Brandon Fl. These include: 

  1. Escalating conflict and nasty communication habits.

  2. Emotional distance and loneliness.

  3. Falling out of love, i.e. “I love you, but I’m not in love with you.”

  4. Trust and commitment issues, such as difficulty relying on a partner or not putting each partners’ well being on par with each other.

  5. Attachment insecurities that are grounded in feelings of low self-worth and fears of abandonment. This can include extreme dependence, which leads to intrusive behaviors. But it can also include extreme independence which can make a partner feel like they’re not a priority.

  6. Feeling unsupported and emotionally dismissed or difficulty with opening up emotionally.

  7. Sexual intimacy is practically non-existent, there is a lack of desire, and/or it’s rarely talked about.

  8. Difficulties with in-laws, friendships, work, or life stressors including health issues.

  9. Abuse, affairs, and addictions (alcohol, drugs, porn, etc.)11

  10. Differences in parenting styles that lead to conflict.

  11. Mismanagement and disagreement on finances.

  12. Things feeling unfair in the division of household chores.

  13. Untreated anxiety and depression issues that complicate things in the relationship.

  14. Unequal decision making.

  15. Difficult childhood upbringings that have emotionally wounded partners and make it difficult to trust your partner or stay engaged when conflict arises.

A well-trained couples therapist at Affordable Counseling Center in Tampa Fl, and Brandon Fl, who seeks to deeply understand you and your partner can support you in implementing strategies and tools to change the way you communicate, as well as shift unhealthy dynamics in your relationship. They can help you bring forth difficult feelings in a vulnerable way that helps your partner see you better and helps create a recipe to win your heart. 

And sometimes accessing these difficult feelings and shining a light on the underlying contributions to your relationship’s turmoil, may lead you both to decide to divorce, hopefully amicably. For highly conflicted couples, research indicates that this can be healthy.


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