Fifty percent of marriages end in divorce. These rates vary with the partner’s education level, religious beliefs, childhood, etc. While divorce seems to be the healthiest and best decision for some, others may feel that the marriage can be salvaged. When there are problems and issues in the relationship many wonder when is it appropriate to seek help from a counselor.
Here are some good reasons to seek marriage counseling:
Communication has turned negative. Negative communication can include anything that leaves one partner feeling depressed, insecure, disregarded, or wanting to withdraw from the conversation. Once the communication has turned negative it is hard to get it back on the positive track.
Affairs. If you are contemplating having an affair, or if one partner has already had an affair, now would be a good time to seek help. It is possible to recover from infidelity, but it takes commitment and patience.
You’ve become just “roommates”. When it seems like you’re just occupying the same space and you just co-exist, a counselor can help sort out what is missing and help you get it back.
Can’t figure out how to resolve conflicts. A third party member can help get you moving in the right direction and teach you skills to resolving your conflicts.
Staying together just for the children. When couples believe it is more beneficial to stay together for the sake of the children, it can actually do more harm then good. Children should never be the deciding factor, and a professional can help you figure that out.
Not all marriages can be saved. In the process of marriage counseling you may decide that separation is in your best interest. But for those who are willing to commit to the process, marriage counseling can help you realize why you fell in love in the first place and get your marriage back on the right track.