Marriage problems after retirement are actually very common in the early phases of this transition. Here are some of the common stressors I hear couples in Tampa FL, and Brandon FL, talk about when they come to couples counseling at Affordable Counseling Center in Tampa FL, and Brandon FL, near, during or after retirement:
“He/She doesn’t want to do anything but sit around and watch TV.”
“We just don’t have the same priorities anymore.”
“I’m busy all day while he’s just at the golf course.”
“He’s around too much now!”
“I feel like I don’t even know my spouse anymore.”
“We don’t have anything in common anymore.”
A period of transition to retirement is normal
Many couples in Tampa FL, and Brandon FL, are surprised to hear that it’s normal to go through a transition period first when your children leave the home and then again (sometimes a much bigger transition) when one or both of your retires. It’s common for each person to have a different view of what they are wanting out of this time in your life. You had always assumed retirement would look a certain way. Naturally, you had assumed your spouse was on the same page.
Additionally, most couples in Tampa FL, and Brandon FL, don’t realize how much of what they used to talk about revolved around children and jobs. When those things are no longer present on a daily basis, it can initially be hard to even think of topics for conversation! You’re also both used to your own independence during the day. But now, you have fewer obligations. This may mean that you spend much more time together than you are used to. Or the opposite may also be true. Perhaps you had expected to spend a great deal of time together and instead your spouse is always parked in front of the TV or at the golf course with friends.
Relationships Can be Fulfilling at all Stages of Life At Affordable Counseling Center in Tampa FL, and Brandon FL.
You don’t have to choose between a miserable relationship in Tampa FL, and Brandon FL, or facing retirement alone. It’s possible to find satisfaction in the very relationship you feel frustrated by at the moment.
Relationships or marriages can be fulfilling even when you are 55, 65 or 75 years old. You and your partner don’t have to settle for co-existing. You can have excitement, joy and meaning in your relationship. Relationship and marriage counseling at Affordable Counseling Center in Tampa FL, and Brandon FL, after retirement can help you make the most out of this time in your life by bringing you and your partner closer together.